Teaching honouring singleness…

Here is a novel idea... what if we taught men and women how to be single??? What if we celebrated and honoured it as much as we do engagements, weddings, births... would it change our domestic violence statistics??? Would we be offering people another way of living healthy and fulfilled lives??? Would that decrease the … Continue reading Teaching honouring singleness…

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Sharing the pain of mothers day…

This was my mother's day... I awoke and decided that today could be a day of blessing others and myself. It started with messaging the single childless people I know. Acknowledging their value worth and love. Acknowledging the possible aches and joys that come with the day. Many teary replies came with lots of thanks. … Continue reading Sharing the pain of mothers day…

Brutally honest messy prayer… don’t just suck it up and be strong.

I'm sharing this solely and simply because I want anyone out there feeling an ache to feel ok feeling it and moving through it. To feel ok praying a prayer like this. To feel ok like the psalmist did to be raw real and vulnerable with God. I maybe wrong or off track but this … Continue reading Brutally honest messy prayer… don’t just suck it up and be strong.

Mother’s day approaches…

So mothers day is just around the corner... if your childless what are you doing for self care? Firstly let's me state I know mothers day is about mums and they totally deserve some recognition and special treatment. An extra moment of care and compassion. I see the struggle and work and joy and hours … Continue reading Mother’s day approaches…

Witnessing another’s wave of emotion.

What do you do when the ache arises? I got to be honest most of the time in the past I'd just squish it and hide. I wouldn't let it out in shame and fear of it being mistreated with simple flippant answers or made out to be bigger than just that moment or belittled … Continue reading Witnessing another’s wave of emotion.

A raw real prayer

This is a little something I wrote while in an empty tender spot this morning. It's raw and real so please hold it sensitively. I share it here as I maybe some of you singles out there may identify with this raw real talk. No one seems to talk about this emptiness and tender times … Continue reading A raw real prayer

Anxiety and Love Have Words

Anxiety has a voice and love has a voice. This is what it sounds like in my head at times... Anxiety says don't speak Love says you can have a voice Anxiety says you won't be heard Love says we want to hear you Anxiety says run and hide Love says come sit by my … Continue reading Anxiety and Love Have Words

That Dyslexia Spin

The spin hit I wasn't ready for it Even though shouldve seen it coming "10 minutes to read..." Boom It just goes a blur Spinning round and round Hoping to catch hold of it Or to just slow it down Words stare at me blankly Nothing goes in Breath breath You got this Just breath … Continue reading That Dyslexia Spin

Who will stand by me…

Here is something I wrote a while ago and the questions still loom Some days singleness is raw and stings. Other days it's just what it is and others days it's not even thought about. Can you identify???? Who will stand by me when my grandfather passes Who will stand by me at the fire … Continue reading Who will stand by me…

May I know that I am loved…

Perfect love casts out all fear... have you heard that before? Has anyone told you that before in the midst of sever anxiety or a panic attack? I've been told it a number of times in very well meaning ways. Sadly it had the complete opposite effect as it heighten the fear leaving me bemused … Continue reading May I know that I am loved…

Whirlwind blew through

Words evaded me My mind blanks Unknown where the words disappear They just are not there Blank steers awaiting Silence echoes As the world whirls round As jumbled words settle Someone calls out Stumbling out the words land Now where we're we I just got caught in the whirlwind I got this It won't take … Continue reading Whirlwind blew through

Broken alarm system = anxiety shame

It ached today. I don't know why it ached but it did. I'm told its grief. I can't say if it is or not. My heads been playing tricks. Telling me the old lie to keep quiet, don't celebrate and definitely don't be proud of yourself. "You'll be misunderstood, laughed at. They will think you are … Continue reading Broken alarm system = anxiety shame

4 easy steps… yeah right!

So I came across this article tonight... Four easy steps to surviving singleness. My stomach churned at the title and Tui add words ran through my head.... "yeah right!" (Sorry non Kiwi's, it's an inside kiwi thing ) But i still read it. It was the usual slap answers of ask, search scripture, believe/trust, wait. … Continue reading 4 easy steps… yeah right!

Ocean of emotion

Some waves toss Some waves turn Some waves are still Some waves roll Some waves are rocky Some waves are glassy Some waves are easy to ride Some waves dump you high and dry Some waves you wonder if you will even survive But all waves pass by Im learning that whatever type of moment … Continue reading Ocean of emotion

A little surprise

He saw me from across the room. He eyed me up and down. Staring with that juicey look. He'd heard I was the tastiest girl in town. He'd spent some time with the crowd near by. Buzzing about he went too and fro. While keeping his eye on the prize that he had spied. Inconspicuously … Continue reading A little surprise

Simple holiday life

The cool summer breeze flows freely The stunning view Ocean glistening blue With the occasional white capped wave Constant sun and sand Sand on your feet Sand in your hair Not to mention sand in your bed Shade is sort after at mid-day Sunny spots for the rest A sprinkle of rain offers the sunburnt … Continue reading Simple holiday life

Mermaid library

What if we could capture our childlike imagination and creativity again? What would we see and hear? I've just been collecting mermaid books. What are mermaid books you ask? Mangrove seeds. My nieces great imagination had me collecting books for the library while soaking ocean. The mangrove seeds look like books and open like book … Continue reading Mermaid library

Listen…

What do you hear... listen carefully Under the pure blue sky In the gentle breeze I hear... Leaves rustling Birds chirping Wings fluttering Kids laughing and chattering Distant waves crashing A mower working away Footsteps passing A helicopter in the sky Brushs and hoses cleaning The squeaking of a swing Pages turning on Grandma's book … Continue reading Listen…

Christmas as a single takes courage

Facing Christmas as a single, I recon, takes courage. Actually I know it takes courage. About 4 years ago I was in an interview which was part of applying for the counselling degree. It was then that I realised that icky feeling that came with Christmas was actually a sign of courage. Somehow in the … Continue reading Christmas as a single takes courage

Sometime ya just gotta stick ya face in flour…

Yep, tonight I have had whipped cream flicked in my face, took a mouth full of flour to find a gummy bear and had a full on flour fight! Yeap I was totally white! Isn't that what everyone does for a 40th birthday party??? I guess not. I wonder if life would be different if … Continue reading Sometime ya just gotta stick ya face in flour…